Hi, I’m Daron, and I’m an introvert.
For the longest time, I felt something was wrong with me like something was broken. Once I discovered I was introverted and accepted it, my world changed. Instead of trying to act like an extrovert, I found ways to work with my introversion rather than fight against it. I was able to better fit into this loud world and find quiet places to recharge.
I grew up in a small farming town in the Midwest but knew a vast world existed. I am one of many introverts who are deep thinkers and curious. I wanted to explore the world, but travel's confusion and uncertainty held me back. I want to share my tips for traveling so more introverts can explore and enjoy traveling without needing more vacation time to rest after a vacation.
My Approach
Social
In Cheek's model, a "social" introvert is someone who prefers smaller social gatherings or enjoys being alone. Hangingn out with just a few close friends is much more preferred over large parties. This preference for low-key activities does not necessarily mean the person is shy or has social anxiety, as these are different from introversion.
It all begins with understanding your style of introversion first. I personally like psychologist, Jonathon Cheek’s, description. He proposes 4 types of introverts using the STAR model; Social, Thinker, Anxious and Restrained.
Most of us have different levels of these traits, making one introvert different from another.
Anxious
Unlike social introverts who prefer low-key activities, “anxious” introverts avoid socializing due to feeling awkward and self-conscious. They tend to ruminate, obsessing over past events and struggling to stop negative thoughts. This can lead to difficulty sleeping as they replay events in their mind, even from years ago.
restrained
“Restrained” introverts tend to operate at a slightly slower pace. They may take a while to get going; they prefer to think before they speak or act. To relax, they like to slow down and take it easy, as opposed to seeking out new or exciting experiences and sensations. Restrained introverts prefer things to be predictable. If they encounter something new, they want to have thought about it and prepared.
Thinker
A "thinking" introvert is introspective, thoughtful, and enjoys daydreaming. They appreciate imagination, creativity, learning new things, and finding connections. Unlike social introverts, they may not avoid social activities. They might spend time with a few close friends over the weekend and then spend Sunday night alone journaling, reading, learning or creating.